Monday, March 12, 2012

How Do You Deal With Difficult People?

At the start of A Christmas Carol, Ebenezer Scrooge has the market cornered on difficult. You agree? Of course you do. And in the fashion of fiction, by the end he's the sweet, rich uncle we all long to have.

I'm in the middle of dealing with some really difficult people. They are a little different from Uncle Ebenezer. I don't know how stingy they are with their money, but they definitely have the attitude it's their way or the highway. Unreasonable. Single Minded. It makes my heart wrestles around my rib cage and my lungs expand at such a rapid rate I can't get any air in.

How do I deal with this? Writing this blog post is one way. I can get the feelings off my chest just enough to quiet my mind and wait for the answers to come. I won't be able to hear what to do with all the noisy thoughts clanking around in my head like Jacob Marley's chains. But what else can I do? (I'm a doer. I have to do stuff.)

I can't make them see things my way. It's their choice how to view their world. I have to control myself, which isn't such an easy thing to do. (Though I am actually doing something.) How will I get control? It's a beautiful day out. The world outside is filled with an abundance of grace. I can sit with nature and remind myself I have everything I need in this moment. My life is full and at peace. The Universe will provide the answers on how to deal with my Ebenezer replicas. There is no sense in fighting them. "What you resist, persists." I'll know what to do when the time is right.

How would you deal with difficult people?


  1. I've missed your posts, Stacey :)
    Whenever I deal with the difficult crowd, my first order of business is to not take things personally. (I work in school and know almost all the nonsense I deal with has nothing to do with me. If it does, unless someone points out something specific, I usually remain oblivious.)

    I don't sweat the small stuff. I try to deal with the main issue and focus on that, or try to problem-solve with the parties involved. The more professional I keep things (i.e., keep to the issue and feelings out of it as much as possible), the better my relationships with people.

    Oh, and NEVER try to reason with someone who's in the middle of a fit.

    This could spark a post of my own. Good think I'm tired right now.

    Take care and ttys!

  2. I would slap them silly...

    ...well, I would in my imagination anyway.

    I don't know. Depending on they WAY in which they were being difficult and what your relationship was with them would determine how to best deal with them. Some people you can talk to. Some people you have to ignore. Some (like family) you can't ignore and just have to tolerate.

    Sorry, I'm no help at all.